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#RelationshipGoals are most likely destroying the way we see relationships. Social media feeds us this idea that relationships are idyllic, euphoric houses of love, but dealing with humans is messy. Compatibility may be instant, but learning to really do life with someone is a practice that can take years.

A lot of people don’t want to do this work, and instead opt out when things get a little hard.

“Our expectations are higher today because we are flooded with images of “perfect love” from TV, films, advertisements, and social media,” relationship coach, Claudia Cox told Elite Daily.

“We expect perfection and, if we don’t find it, we move on quickly. This makes dating harder because it’s common for us to look for what’s wrong with someone, instead of focusing on what’s right. We expect an intense spark to be there from the start. If it’s not, we check out and look for someone else, because we feel it’s easy to meet someone thanks to modern technology.”

Our cancel culture goes beyond Internet celebrities, it extends to relationships too. It can be hard to weigh if your current bae is worth the investment or not–but all good relationships require it. But we can get so caught up in only wanting to have fun, that we miss the deep love that comes with consistent effort.

“Having fun has become more and more important in today’s culture,” Cox explained.

“After the initial spark wears off and the routine sets in, we become frustrated, bored, and want to experience the spark again. Many people would rather start fresh than fully dive into the other phases of love. And the ease of finding someone online takes away the perceived risk of ending up alone.”

But the fact is, if we are constantly switching it up in search of perfection and ease, we are more likely to end up alone. Any relationship with a human, even your perfect astrological match or your soulmate, is going to take a bit of work.

So if you want the real thing, make sure you are ready for the responsibility and discipline that comes with it, not just the photos.