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The ’90s were truly a golden era of television shows like Friends, Frasier, Seinfeld, and Martin. Despite many fans feeling that the series has more than earned its place in the Television Hall of Fame — yes, that’s been a thing since 1984 — the series has never been officially inducted, and neither has its star, Martin Lawrence.

That isn’t to say that the series and its actors haven’t received any other accolades (because it has). It was truly hard not to fall in love with Martin’s hijinks and the playful banter between him and Pam — his girlfriend’s best friend, who had mostly hate but sometimes sisterly love for Martin.

But the most endearing part of the series was the relationship between Martin and Gina, his long-time girlfriend, portrayed by Tisha Campbell. The reason Martin and Gina’s relationship is still one of the best aspects of Martin was that they don’t present a sugar-coated, flawless relationship. In fact, there are only a few couples in television history who have realistically captured the essence of a real, lived-in relationship quite like Martin and Gina, allowing this television couple to set the golden standard for realistic couples on TV.

Before we dive into why Martin and Gina worked so well as a realistic couple, let’s enjoy a small history lesson and introduce Martin to those who haven’t seen the show. Martin is an American television sitcom that ran for five seasons on Fox from 1992 to 1997. The show starred the legendary comedian Martin Lawrence as both the eponymous Martin and several other characters throughout the show as well. Martin was Fox’s highest-rated show during its run, and it’s often regarded as one of the most influential and pivotal sitcoms of all time.

Shifting our focus to Martin and Gina’s relationship, there is much to consider. If we had to summarize their dynamic coupling, we could say it’s aptly captured in The Stylistics‘ Break Up to Make Up song, which also reflects the emotional roller coaster often seen in real 3-D relationships. That’s what really sets Martin and Gina apart from most on-screen couples; they showed us a relationship with all its quirks, flaws, and ups and downs (Martin and Gina actually break up in the show). This made them both a refreshing and relatable paradigm to a ’90s television audience who appreciated nuance.  

Many TV couples in sitcoms seem to live in a utopian world devoid of any real conflict, or the conflict is scarce. Martin, on the other hand, often employed comedic conflict in its narrative. Fortunately for the audience, the comedic technique wasn’t spared when it came to Martin and Gina’s relationship. The couple faces real issues: they argue, they make up, and they navigate the complexities of life together. Their relationship isn’t only about the highs; it is equally about the lows in their lives and how the couple manages to overcome difficulties.

And that’s precisely what makes Martin and Gina stand out. As stated above, many sitcom relationships are often idyllic, a constant that never (or almost never) changes while the rest of the narrative develops. Martin actually incorporates the relationship into the broader narrative as part of the characters’ respective development. We see both of them grow individually and as a couple, adapting to each other’s changes, which actually mirrors the trajectories of real-life relationships.

Their journey was anything but linear; it was filled with setbacks and learning experiences, painting an additional layer of realism on top of the story — like the time when Martin bought a giant TV or when Gina received an unusual Valentine’s gift. This aspect of their relationship is crucial, as it near perfectly depicts relationships in real life in which couples often face challenges that test their bond. The real-life nature of their relationship isn’t depicted through conflict alone; far from it, in fact. But it makes the depiction much more grounded in reality, as the couple doesn’t need any grand gestures to prove their love. Instead, their love is evident in their everyday interactions.

This approach to storytelling romance makes their relationship seem more life-like and more attainable. Perhaps the biggest contributing factor is Martin and Gina’s communication within the relationship. Both Martin and Gina are depicted as strong, independent personalities, and as such, they don’t shy away from expressing their feelings, be they love, frustration, or outright fury. The authentic expressions of these emotions make their communication loud and sometimes messy, with a smidge of misunderstanding.

Now, more than two decades later, Martin and Gina’s relationship is still the go-to golden standard for realistic couples that TV actors refer to when looking for realistic romantic depictions, especially in the comedy genre. Their relationship isn’t portrayed as some unattainably perfect fairy-tale romance. Instead, it showcases a genuine couple dynamic that was entirely relatable. Martin and Gina love each other; they offer support and comfort; they yell and fight and laugh and show what love is — an incredibly beautiful but unfiltered mess.