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Majestic volcanoes, lush rain forests and beautiful beaches off Lake Kivu are just a few of the things that make Rwanda one of the continent’s most stunning, yet experiences that run deeper than Instagram worthy photos have turned to Rwanda for once-in-a-lifetime moments they know they won’t find anywhere else. Even other Africans, like South African native Senzelwe Mthembu (@senz_m) have begun exploring the country’s wonders and found that in many ways, Rawanda feels like a home away from home.
Take a look at our exclusive guide to learn more about all there is to discover in Rwanda so you can plan your own African adventure of a lifetime.
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Every love story has a beginning.
This is a relatively innocuous truth, but it’s an important one to remember especially the older you get. The love I’m talking about today is not romantic in nature although there is a deep-seated passion underlying the contents of this article.
No, today’s story is more akin to an origin story of how I became the prolific comic reader I am today, although there are surprisingly few superheroes involved. Before I was a staff writer here at Black Nerd Problems, I recounted how my journey into physical comics started in 2010 when I discovered a shop on the Delmar Loop in St. Louis. Before that I loved graphic novels from the greats like Alan Moore and Neil Gaiman. But before all of that happened, there was a different inciting incident, a particular story that itself starts with a search for something special…
Gateway Media
In middle school, I was very much a nerd, although back then I spent a disproportionate amount of time playing video games compared to the rest of my nerdy hobbies. You may or may not remember the pre-YouTube/pre-Reddit era of the internet where information was mostly given in text-based format, and thus you may or may not remember a site called GameFAQs, a hosting site for various user-generated text based guides. This was the pinnacle of video game aides given that Prima Strategy Guides cost money that exceeded allowances. I used the site daily, voting in their polls, looking up information for my limited play time, and most importantly for this story: reading the forums.
I was just shy of 13 when I started browsing and couldn’t make my own account, so I mostly just read the conversations. I read the sig file at the end of each post. It’s weird to think that we used to have a digital stamp with the exact same information every time we posted information, but that’s how things worked back then.
Now I couldn’t tell you which precise sig file finally convinced me to go searching for the source material, but memory is foggy and all that really matters is that after seeing a bunch of gamers constantly reference this one webcomic, I eventually navigated my way to Nuklear Power. I stared at the several years of comics in the archives before promptly reading 8-Bit Theater. I wouldn’t then realize how much of my life was going to be consumed by the decision to read this daily-ish strip or how strongly and inadvertently it would lead me down the path I continue on to this day.
8-Bit Theater, Summarized
8-Bit Theater was one of the forefathers of the “sprite comic.” Authors took video game sprites and wrote their own comics with these stock characters in various environments. 8-Bit Theater itself is a parody/deconstruction/reconstruction/genre-defying thing based on the original Final Fantasy. And for nine years, Brian Clevinger dutifully updated this sprawling saga of the Warriors of Light:
- Fighter McWarrior
- Black Mage Evilwizardington
- Red Mage Statscowski
- Thief Khee’bleer
Alongside a varied supporting cast, most notably Garland and White Mage, we saw the group as they conquered dungeons, dissected (and sometimes brutally vivisected) video game and role playing tropes, and developed one of the most meta-textual, self-referential, self-deprecating encyclopedia of esoteric in-jokes*. Nearly a decade later, I remember oh so many of them.
There was the time that Thief stole his class upgrade to Ninja from the nebulous future. Red Mage casting Ice-IX in an unexpected reference to Kurt Vonnegut. Fighter literally blocking the Earth to prevent fall damage (what a legend). Black Mage defeating the ruler of Hell and somehow becoming more incredibly evil than a Black Mage named Black Mage Evilwizardington already was. The Armor and Armorie of Invincinibility, and a several year set up of a brick joke where an off reference to 4 White Mages defeating the final boss of Final Fantasy came to fruition in the final arc of the webcomic.
8-Bit Theater thrived on Clevinger’s love of video games and ability to use serialized webcomic formatting to tell this comedic tale. It was my first webcomic, although it certainly wasn’t my last.
The Age of Webcomics
The 2000’s was an incredibly fertile time for webcomics, and I think at my peak I was reading upwards of 30 some comics strips regularly. See after 8-Bit Theater, I delved into all sorts of comics hosting sites and linked recommendations. I got hooked on the original incarnation of Ctrl+Alt+Del, PvP, Penny Arcade, Bob and George, and a general trend of gaming-related comic media. At some point I slowly pivoted outwards to things like Questionable Content, XKCD, and Multiplex Comics, all stories that I sat down and climbed through months to years of archives.
Reading all of these comics incessantly eventually led me to things like Watchmen and Sandman, but more importantly to Scott McCloud. By the time I was a junior in high school, I was obsessed with the media and the things that could be done with a comic that couldn’t be done outside of them. Then I became enthralled by what only webcomics could do. Implementations of infinite canvases, animations, stealth editing of old pages.
8-Bit Theater did a lot of cool things with its narrative, but some of its contemporaries and successors fundamentally altered my understanding of what was possible. Comics like Kidd Radd, another 8-Bit Parody (and a better version of Wreck-It Ralph‘s main premise),Homestuck utilized the internet’s functionality in weirder and more novel ways, and Order of the Stick made use of different drawing styles to enhance its world building (admittedly, it wasn’t the only one to do this, just the one that made the most narrative sense).
In many ways, it is fitting that 2010 was the end of 8-Bit Theater. Right at the time my webcomic list had slowly whittled down. And how lucky that I found a store right next door to me that managed to keep kindling the passion for all comics…
Continue? / Continue.
These days I only have about three webcomics** from my original reading list still in my RSS feeds (surprisingly, I still use RSS feed). Most of my comic consumption lies in single issues now. I have amassed 10 boxes worth of floppies. Mostly DC, some Image, and increasingly number of Marvel titles. My weekly visit to Star Clipper is one of my most valued rituals. I’ve made so many friends thanks to comics, which I only truly loved thanks to webcomics. Although strangely enough, thanks to WebToons I’ve somehow managed to find myself with a slowly growing list of new webcomics***.
I’d say it’s funny how that works, but it’s really more just narrative appropriateness. It’s really more just how comics work. The callback, the flash forward, the odd continuity. It’s important to remember where we came from and where we’re going. How our first loves helped us find our true loves. I love comics now, and that’s because I loved 8-Bit Theater first.
* For the most meta-textual, self-referential, self-depreciating encyclopedia of esoteric in-jokes, I will direct you to this piece about Homestuck, another webcomic that devoured a significant chunk of my life.
** If you’re curious, those would be XKCD, Questionable Content, and Order of the Stick. Although, strangely Homestuck may be making its way back on to my list.
*** Messenger, Blue Chair (Shen of Owl Turd Comics), and Let’s Play. Because of course we brings things back fully circle.
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It was in 2018 that we watched Mia Bally and Tristan Thompson go through one trainwreck of a marriage on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight. Part of the Dallas group of couples, they were united pretty innocently, but came into their short-lived marriage with baggage that they couldn’t get out from under. Mia had been accused by her ex of stalking him, and Tristan couldn’t forgive her for not being honest about that entire situation. After struggling to communicate clearly, dealing with trust issues and a lot of manipulative, controlling behavior on both parties’ part, they called it quits with Mia filing for divorce in September of 2018 while the series was still airing. In case you forgot, this is what Mia looked like:
What songs do ya’ll listen to for healing? Freesol-Seven Lions helps me. 
#healing #newchapter #love #happiness #miabally #feelings #sadtimes #greyscale #styleinspo #greylife #ootd #gooddeal #miabally #photooftheday #americanstyle #womensfashion #instagood #homegoods #southernstyle #falling #friedchicken #inmyfeelingsThat experience could probably tank anyone’s perspective on love, and it would be understandable. However, Tristan, at least, has been able to move forward from his first marriage and divorce and is getting married again.
In case you missed it, he popped the question to Rachel Ashley in June, calling her a queen on social media after announcing the news.
“We are all created for a purpose. I’ve identified mine,” he wrote. “Loving and serving God. And now loving and leading you.”
#shesaidyes #marriedatfirstsight #engaged #DivineFavorHe went public with Rachel on Valentine’s Day earlier this, and following their engagement news, the couple have moved into a home together in Dallas from Houston.
Rachel is a former Miss Texas 2014. She has had nothing but great things to say about Tristan since she went public with their relationship back in May. After he popped the question, she spoke openly on her Instagram about her excitement over being his future wife.
“It is said that you won’t meet your soulmate until you are both ready to say hello to forever…And just like that, I said YES to forever with my soulmate,” she said. “Tristan Stephon Thompson, you are forever and always the hero of my heart, my best friend, my comfort, my home, and the love of my life. I cannot wait to be your wife.”
Tristan seems to be in a great place since things played out poorly on national television for him with Mia and some not-so-great comments were made by him about preferring his women lighter and leaner. People can grow though, and it looks like he’s found someone to grow with.
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In addition to her particular brand of comedy, Tiffany Haddish has built a reputation around being the person who shares it all. Whether she’s writing about the details of her abusive marriage, sharing the horrors of growing up in foster care, or spilling celebrity secrets (Who bit Beyoncé? and sleeping with Chingy), Tiffany has, for as long as she’s been in the mainstream, had a lot to say.
But apparently that is coming to an end. Over the weekend, Haddish tweeted that after watching a YouTube video titled, “The 10 Things You Should Always Keep To Yourself,” she was going to refrain from being such an open-book.
If you’re wondering what the video listed as thing you should not share with others, here’s what the creator’s said
– Goals
– Good Deeds
– Life Philosophy
– Wealth
– Family problems
– Other people’s secrets
– Fears and weaknesses
– Resentments about the past
– Your talents
– Personal Life
A few of these could have applied to the things Tiffany has shared over the years, including personal life. This is what the video had to say about that particular topic.
“There are certain things that are better kept to yourself, such as what you do under the sheets, your religious life and your bad habits. Telling others about your personal things will open you up to judgement and criticism. Keeping certain elements of your life a mystery will make you come across much classier and worthy of a lot more respect.”
They concluded the video by saying that no matter how large your circle of friends is, in the end we’re all alone.
Personally, I found it a bit odd and even pessimistic in its view on human nature. While Tiffany certainly has the right to change and grow as an entertainer as she sees fit, those of us who appreciate her do because of the things she’s shared about herself…and occasionally other people. To me, she’s something like the people’s celebrity: famous but still authentic and accessible.
Haddish concluded the tweet thread with these final thoughts.